general parenting rlt


My blogging has been somewhat sporadic recently. I’m finding it hard to adjust to being back at work full time. I don’t have enough time for anything.

I don’t feel like I have enough time to give my baby the attention he needs or deserves, I left for work this morning before he was even awake. He hasn’t seen that I am there for him today, like every other day, and I don’t like it. Likewise with my partner, he has a very demanding job, I feel like we are ships that pass in the night.

RLT has slept in my bed every night since the 1st March. At first, I needed it as much as him, but we have tried to put him in his cot and the cry at the moment of realisation is horrific. I can’t do that to him, apparently, separation anxiety is evident between eight and ten months anyway, mix into this that his routine has completely changed and the clocks changing.

He has also got four of his top teeth coming through at the same time – so that is nine months and six teeth, which is pretty good going. I am off on Monday’s, so this Monday we went to baby gym, took a walk, played in the garden and on the trike – full throttle to make the most of the time.

At work I feel like the new girl. I don’t know briefs sufficiently to do anything to full effect, I feel that I am picking up the ends of projects of which I don’t know the aims and objectives. My brain isn’t firing in meetings, I’m being asked for my opinions and I just sit there looking vacant. Not having a handover hasn’t helped, but thankfully the team of people  I work with are amazing.

I find I’ve changed as a person. I’m not as strong as I once thought I was. I have been spoken to in an unkind way by a colleague, whereas I would usually shrug it off, it affected me so deeply. I feel a little caught out that male colleagues can throw the fact that I took the time out to have a baby as me not being fully committed to the cause. I’m not a feminist in any way, but it sucked. I can’t help the fact that my partner couldn’t carry the baby, I had to and I wanted to, but that doesn’t give them the right to throw this at me when they don’t get their own way. I was simply doing the job I was employed for.

Life feels like it is built on sand at the moment for one reason or another. I need to find a way to get a solid routine for everyone. Time to make a plan!

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    Nicola | Mummy to Dex
    March 31, 2017 at 11:34 am

    So proud of you Nic, you are doing a fantastic job in a sexist world that is full of morons. I know you will find a routine that works for you soon and RLT will settle down shortly I am sure. I wrote about the 8/9/10m sleep regression about a month or so ago and I felt so crap. I also wrote about it on MaxandKai’s blog as well about how horrible I was feeling – and I’m not even back in work yet, What I’m trying to say is..IT DOES GET EASIER (the sleep, can’t comment on work). RLT will find his sleeping rhythm again, this won’t let forever. Lots of love xxxxx

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    Devon Mama
    March 31, 2017 at 1:26 pm

    Oh Nic, you are a superstar and you don’t even know it! It must be so difficult making those sacrifices of time with RLT but you’re doing it for him in the long run. Like Nic said, it will get easier even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, I found personally it’s taken me until really recently to get back into the swing of work again (3 full months later!!) and that’s without trying to deal with sleep issues at the same time. Anyone in their right mind understands that and if they don’t then they’re not worth your worry. Don’t you put too much pressure on yourself, things have changed, YOU have changed and it’s completely normal that it’s unsettling for you all but you will find your norm again SOON!!!! x

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